Pattern Recognition

If you’ve ever looked back on a confusing, painful relationship and wondered why you stayed so long, this isn’t about weakness. It’s about precision. ADHD brains are wired to recognize patterns—and when we meet a narcissist, we misclassify them not because we’re naïve, but because they resemble our most detailed internal template: ourselves. ✨ This is the short version of a much deeper post. The full version explains the neuroscience behind…

It’s a pattern too many ADHDers know too well: you find yourself in a relationship that hurts—one where you’re constantly confused, constantly trying, and never fully sure what’s real. They do things that seem cruel, yet you feel like you understand why they do them. You see the fear behind the anger, the lack of security behind the control, the anxiety behind the lashing out. Even though it hurts, and…