If you’ve ever told yourself “I’m just being lazy” when you can’t get out of bed—stop right there. That’s not what’s happening. You’re not lazy. You’re not weak. You’re not failing. What you’re feeling is threat. Getting out of bed feels hard because, to your brain, it actually is. It feels unsafe. Not because there’s a lion in your hallway—but because your nervous system doesn’t know the difference between physical…
Dopamine & ADHD
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ADHD, Rejection Sensitivity (RSD), and the Spiral of Rumination
You told yourself you were done. But here you are again—thumb hovering, heart racing, replaying old messages and spiraling through the same loops. It’s not just emotional. It feels physical, urgent, impossible to let go of. To most people, this might look like overthinking. But if you have ADHD, it’s deeper than that. It’s not drama—it’s dysregulation. What’s really happening is that your brain is trying to regulate emotional tension…
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How to Clean a Truly Disastrous Room with ADHD—Clean With ADHD Part 8
You’re standing in the middle of a total disaster—floor gone, every surface buried, brain short-circuiting. You know you need to start, but your body won’t move. You freeze. Or flee. Or scroll. You’ve tried logic. You’ve tried “just five minutes.” But everything still feels like too much. Here’s why: your brain doesn’t see a messy room—it sees danger. All that visual overload, all those unknowns, send your nervous system into…
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How to Get Back on Track After Missing a Day of Cleaning—Clean With ADHD Part 6
If you have ADHD, you already know how this story goes: You were on a roll.Your space was clean. Your systems were working. It actually felt easy for once. And then—life happened. You missed one day. Just one. And somehow… that one day ruined everything. The next day, the motivation was gone. The room felt off. Not terrible, just off. And weirdly, you didn’t feel that same automatic urge to…
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Why ADHD Brains Lose Cleaning Motivation & How to Avoid It Entirely—Clean With ADHD Part 5
As the lucky owner of an ADHD brain that “gets bored easily,” you’ve probably been criticized—by yourself or others—for not being able to keep things organized or clean. You likely think you lack willpower, discipline, or the ability to maintain habits, because that’s really what it feels like. And it would make sense, especially if you’ve lived through the seemingly never-ending cycle of messy → clean → messy → clean.…
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The Secret to Finally Feeling Done With Cleaning—Clean With ADHD Part 3
Do you hate cleaning? Does it feel never-ending? Do you start cleaning a room, get to the point where you should actually be finished, yet even after all that work it still doesn’t feel clean—because everywhere you look, you keep spotting more things you missed? A sauce splatter on the backsplash, a few crumbs on the floor even though you already vacuumed, or maybe it’s just a vague feeling that…