If you’ve ever looked back on a confusing, painful relationship and wondered why you stayed so long, this isn’t about weakness. It’s about precision. ADHD brains are wired to recognize patterns—and when we meet a narcissist, we misclassify them not because we’re naïve, but because they resemble our most detailed internal template: ourselves. ✨ This is the short version of a much deeper post. The full version explains the neuroscience behind…
How ADHD Brains Work
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Why ADHDers Fall for Narcissists—and Why It’s So Hard to Let Go (Deep Dive)
It’s a pattern too many ADHDers know too well: you find yourself in a relationship that hurts—one where you’re constantly confused, constantly trying, and never fully sure what’s real. They do things that seem cruel, yet you feel like you understand why they do them. You see the fear behind the anger, the lack of security behind the control, the anxiety behind the lashing out. Even though it hurts, and…
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How to Get Out of Bed With ADHD: Build Your Dopamine Red Carpet Morning (Deep Dive)
If you’ve ever told yourself “I’m just being lazy” when you can’t get out of bed—stop right there. That’s not what’s happening. You’re not lazy. You’re not weak. You’re not failing. What you’re feeling is threat. Getting out of bed feels hard because, to your brain, it actually is. It feels unsafe. Not because there’s a lion in your hallway—but because your nervous system doesn’t know the difference between physical…
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Why Your Cleaning Plans Always Fail—and How to Fix It Easily (Summary)
If you’ve ever planned a big weekend cleaning session—only to completely freeze when it’s time to begin—you’re not alone. You walk into the room, ready to clean, and suddenly you’re overwhelmed. You feel paralyzed. You might even tell yourself, “I guess I just don’t have enough dopamine,” and head to the couch to scroll instead. But that’s not actually what’s happening. The truth is: your brain isn’t broken. It’s just…
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Why Your Cleaning Plans Always Fail—and How to Fix It Easily (Deep Dive)
Imagine this: It’s a calm morning on one of your free days, and you finally get the great idea to tackle that messy room you’ve been putting off. It’s been bothering you for days—maybe weeks—but until now, you didn’t have the time, energy, or mental bandwidth to deal with it. But today’s the day. You walk into the room—calm, relaxed, ready to finally get it over with—and then, the moment…
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ADHD, Rejection Sensitivity (RSD), and the Spiral of Rumination
You told yourself you were done. But here you are again—thumb hovering, heart racing, replaying old messages and spiraling through the same loops. It’s not just emotional. It feels physical, urgent, impossible to let go of. To most people, this might look like overthinking. But if you have ADHD, it’s deeper than that. It’s not drama—it’s dysregulation. What’s really happening is that your brain is trying to regulate emotional tension…