You know exactly what you want. Maybe it’s finishing school, writing the book, building the business, finally getting healthy. You think about it constantly. You feel, If I could just do this one thing, everything else in my life would get better. The desire is there. The motivation is there, emotionally. You want it so badly it aches. And yet, when it’s time to start… nothing happens. It feels like…
How ADHD Brains Work
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Why ADHDers Fall for Narcissists—and Why It’s So Hard to Let Go (Summary)
If you’ve ever looked back on a confusing, painful relationship and wondered why you stayed so long, this isn’t about weakness. It’s about precision. ADHD brains are wired to recognize patterns—and when we meet a narcissist, we misclassify them not because we’re naïve, but because they resemble our most detailed internal template: ourselves. ✨ This is the short version of a much deeper post. The full version explains the neuroscience behind…
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Why ADHDers Fall for Narcissists—and Why It’s So Hard to Let Go (Deep Dive)
It’s a pattern too many ADHDers know too well: you find yourself in a relationship that hurts—one where you’re constantly confused, constantly trying, and never fully sure what’s real. They do things that seem cruel, yet you feel like you understand why they do them. You see the fear behind the anger, the lack of security behind the control, the anxiety behind the lashing out. Even though it hurts, and…
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How to Get Out of Bed With ADHD: Build Your Dopamine Red Carpet Morning (Deep Dive)
If you’ve ever told yourself “I’m just being lazy” when you can’t get out of bed—stop right there. That’s not what’s happening. You’re not lazy. You’re not weak. You’re not failing. What you’re feeling is threat. Getting out of bed feels hard because, to your brain, it actually is. It feels unsafe. Not because there’s a lion in your hallway—but because your nervous system doesn’t know the difference between physical…
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Why Your Cleaning Plans Always Fail—and How to Fix It Easily (Summary)
If you’ve ever planned a big weekend cleaning session—only to completely freeze when it’s time to begin—you’re not alone. You walk into the room, ready to clean, and suddenly you’re overwhelmed. You feel paralyzed. You might even tell yourself, “I guess I just don’t have enough dopamine,” and head to the couch to scroll instead. But that’s not actually what’s happening. The truth is: your brain isn’t broken. It’s just…
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Why Your Cleaning Plans Always Fail—and How to Fix It Easily (Deep Dive)
Imagine this: It’s a calm morning on one of your free days, and you finally get the great idea to tackle that messy room you’ve been putting off. It’s been bothering you for days—maybe weeks—but until now, you didn’t have the time, energy, or mental bandwidth to deal with it. But today’s the day. You walk into the room—calm, relaxed, ready to finally get it over with—and then, the moment…